What if Kids Filled Out Comment Cards?
After constantly butting heads with Princess P, I started thinking that perhaps I was the cause of the never ending conflict. As a result, I had her fill out a comment card of sorts. The questions were asked in a low pressure setting over dinner. She was not coached in any way, and the answers were somewhat surprising. Below are the questions and responses.Q: What can we do to make your stay here more enjoyable?
A: Play in the basement more with me and my toys.
Q: Do you like Mommy and Daddy?
A: I love you guys because you're nice.
Q: What do you think of Special K (our other daughter, not the cereal)?
A: I like her.
Q: Is there anything Special K does that makes you mad?
A: She scratches me.
Q: Is there anything I do that you don't like?
A: Give me spankings.
Q: Is there anything Mommy does that you don't like?
Q: What do I do that you enjoy the most?
A: Giving hugs.
Q: Do you enjoy the activities you're involved with?
A: Yea, I like playing with my friends.
Q: Is there one thing that you could do better?
A: Listen more.
To be honest, the way things have been going, I really expected her to let me have it. She claims every night that she doesn't want to go to school the next morning. Then when she gets to school, she has been a bit clingy and hasn't wanted to participate in all the activities. So to get so many positive answers was a bit of a shock. Here are my key takeaways:
- There is a definite gender bias in our household. The girls already gang up on me, and Mommy apparently can do no wrong.
- The spankings are indeed memorable (when used infrequently) and uncomfortable.
- Deep down I know Princess P loves her sister, but gets irritated frequently at her actions.
- I should give more hugs.
- Princess P still isn't very comfortable playing alone.
- She knows she doesn't listen very well.
It was good to get some feedback from Princess P. It made me realize that if I would stop and look around, things aren't so bad.
Do you ask your kids for feedback on how you're doing?
photo courtesy of ricaird