The work day came to a close. I shut down my PC and started mentally switching from software developer mode, to husband and parent mode.
There comes a time in a child's life where they know exactly what is expected of them, yet seem unable to be corrected by such things as the naughty chair. The kids are still a bit too young and shouldn’t be expected to sit still for very long.
Around this age, the kids are finally tall enough to reach the door handle and escape from their dungeon room if it is being used as the ‘time out’ spot. So what to do? You could smack their hand, but I don’t want to go down the ‘you hit your kids’ road right now. How about reversing the door locks? That sounds humane!
Kids all deal with anger a little differently. Some go off and sulk, while others throw tantrums... kicking and screaming for all they're worth.
There have been times in the past when I have grown frustrated with my children... particularly the older one. One could say that I have been curt, gruff, and insensitive. Take what I like to call the "bike riding incidents" for example. They started out well enough, but always ended in me saying something like, "I'm not carrying your bike home, if you want it, you can ride it... or else we'll leave it in the park for someone else to enjoy." While reflecting on my parenting tactics, I had a hard time figuring out why my approach didn't work.
Have you ever asked yourself why you're a parent? What in the world drove you to bring a child into the world, or adopt? Were you looking for the "Child Tax Credit" to reduce the taxes you owed the government? Were you looking to unleash mini-you's on the world, spreading your agenda to all?
It's that magical time of year. The time when football is on almost every hour of every weekend from now to January... and you know what I like more than watching football? I like drifting off to sleep while a football game slowly lulls me into a post lunch coma.
However, it is impossible to take a nap with a four year old poking you in the ribs with her bony finger!
After certain events, your kids develop a way of thinking that is different than what you're trying to impart upon them. Perhaps they have been away at summer camp and have come back ready to challenge your authority. Or maybe they've been exposed to the neighborhood cult and drank some of the Kool-Aid. Whatever the case may be, you have to deprogram the child, and return him or her to their previous state.
As a parent it is inevitable that there will be times that you either don't like your kids, or parenting in general is a royal pain. If you never feel this way, you're lying to yourself. There are times when kids will wipe their boogers on you, throw tantrums, and launch dinner entrees across the room. This leads me to my first question...